I read this article about Friendship today and it struck a chord in me. I have been feeling like I've been drifting away from old friends in the past few years, friends whom I have known for most of my life, since primary school. I had thought that we would be BFFs forever, no matter what, no matter where. But in the last few years, every time I tried to re-connect when I was back in town (in my home country), they couldn't find the time to do so due to either family or work commitments. Each time, I admit that I would feel slightly resentful, thinking that if it was me, I would make the time since such get-togethers were so hard to come by, given the fact that I don't live there anymore.
Recently, after my last attempt at organizing another get-together, I finally accepted that they (& I) have changed). Our priorities are no longer the same. Our attitudes towards life are different. "C'est la vie" is now my motto. They will always remain my friends & we will always have great memories of times shared, both good & bad. I will not try so hard to grasp at what I think remain the same, because they are not the same anymore. We are different people now, shaped by different life experiences. If they reach out to me, I will gratefully & warmly reach back out to them.
But for now, I will stay connected to those who still want to stay connected, no matter how short a time I have known them.